Meet Him At The Well
Royalty flows within your veins. Meet King Jesus at the Well. He restored my faith and He will do the same for you.
Kim Sade- Daughter of King Jesus
Certified Christian Life and Dating Coach
Breakup Divorce Testimony
I first dedicated my life to Jesus when I was 12, but as time went on, I grew distant from Him. Before I met my ex, my relationship with Jesus was unstable. Even though I went to church with my family, I was torn between living according to His will and doing things my way.
I sought fulfillment in dating, hoping to find a relationship that would satisfy my thirst. At times, I felt resentment toward God because I was unhappy with the way my life was unfolding. My father struggled with alcoholism and gambling, which caused physical and verbal abuse, mainly directed at my mother and my only sibling.
When I was 14, he sat me down and told me he was leaving. After that, he was in and out of my life. By the time I turned 16, I never saw him again. There wasn't a single man in my life I could truly rely on. I was still trying to understand my relationship with God, who had warned me not to get married, but I went ahead with it anyway.
I got married at the age of 21 but found myself signing divorce papers at 23 years old. At first it was a dream come true but then soon realized I had made a big mistake.I didn't fully grasp what marriage entailed—I just wanted the sense of security and companionship that having a husband seemed to offer. I wanted someone to protect me from the world.
What was my role in marriage? Who was I supposed to be? Was I expected to be a traditional wife, or was I a working spouse who would contribute financially? Although we married for love, we soon learned that love wasn't enough to keep a marriage intact. It wasn't long before toxic behavior began to overshadow our relationship. After each argument, we were both quick to blurt out those dreaded words: "I'm done," and then, one day, we really were.
I signed the papers with a smile because I was eager to end the marriage. Later that day, I headed to the social security office, eager to reclaim my maiden name. The clerk, processing my paperwork, raised an eyebrow, "You got divorced today?" Feeling irritated, I held back my urge to lash out and just shot her an angry glare instead. Wasn't the date visible on the paperwork? Regardless, it was none of her concern. Beneath the surface, her question ignited a wave of shame within me. How could I explain the breakup of my short-lived marriage to my friends and family? By this time, I told God I would submit to His will. I just wanted to please God and it seems as if I had failed.
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My emotions shifted from anger to relief, then to depression, and then back to anger again.
I didn’t know I was experiencing the stages of grief. Grief is a complex mix of emotions, sometimes felt simultaneously. I recall a day when I was crying in my room, shouting, "God, I feel like I'm going to die!" And then I heard the Lord's voice telling me, "You will not die, but you will live." Later, I discovered that this was an actual verse from the Bible—Psalms 118:17. I believed I loved my husband, but if that were true, how could I possibly divorce him? Did I make a mistake? Should I go back to him? Surely, God can fix it!
Then I found myself in self-condemnation. Despite hearing God's warning against getting married, I chose to disobey.
Lacking a sense of my identity in Christ, I didn't choose a partner who aligned with God's values. I failed to let God guide my choice of a spouse, and now He had to pull me out of the hole I had dug for myself.
The devil relentlessly taunted me with doubts of God's forgiveness. I couldn't forgive myself, so how could God possibly forgive me especially since he had given me all the warning signs?
Within a year, my ex-husband remarried, while it took me three years to heal the shattered pieces of my heart. Over the three years, I tried to deepen my relationship with God. I didn't have any books about Christians dealing with breakups, nor did I know that such books existed.
I didn’t confide in anybody except my mother because I felt so ashamed. I relocated to a new state shortly after my divorce and focused on working and obtaining my bachelor’s degree. I lived on campus, so I had activities to keep me occupied, but despite the constant distractions, I still felt an overwhelming sense of loneliness. Watching a few of my fellow female classmates getting engaged only intensified my insecurities, leaving me questioning: Who would want to be with me now?
About a year after I graduated, I found comfort in the company of a man I could potentially date. However, we did not pursue dating and it felt like a dagger to my soul. By this point, I had developed a deeper understanding of God's love and forgiveness, and I was determined not to allow anyone hurt me.
This time, I had studied the scriptures just enough to know that Jesus cared for me despite my disobedience. Yes, I had gained a little confidence. I had attended bible studies on campus and would often sneak away in the early mornings before class to pray in one of the study rooms. If Christ had sacrificed himself for my sins, why would anybody continue to hold them against me? Romans 8:1 became my anchor: "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit." If I was an outcast, I wanted everyone to know that Jesus loves the outcast.
The first person to whom Jesus directly revealed that he was the Messiah was an outcast, a woman whom everyone had shunned. Jesus specifically went out of his way to meet her at Jacob's Well. He could have taken a different route, but Jesus intentionally met her because he knew it would transform how she saw herself. She was no longer burdened by the shame that had previously kept her in bondage. She left her water jar behind and rushed to share the news about the Messiah with everyone.
We don't know her name, so we refer to her as "The Woman of Samaria." She had had five husbands, and the man she was currently with was not her husband. When we read her story in John 4:17-42, it has a significant impact on people’s lives.
Many people came to Christ because of her testimony, and even today, her powerful story still inspires us.
God simply wants you to meet Him at the Well. My friend, consider the Well as the place in your heart where you choose to let Jesus carry all your shame, guilt, fear, and rejections. Visit that place. There is nothing in your life so unclean that could make Jesus dirty. You are a conqueror, you carry greatness within you, and you will become everything God has destined you to be. Did you know that royalty runs in your blood? You are a child of the King of Kings!
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Romans 8: 14-17 says
“....Now we call him, “Abba, Father.” For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering.”
My friend, Jesus Christ forgives all sins and He will never let your sins remain. You might have made mistakes in your relationship, be unsure of your true identity, or feel like your world is falling apart because of your breakup. It's perfectly normal to have these feelings, but you will get through it. There is greatness and purpose inside of you that is waiting to be released. Jesus restored my joy, faith, and hope, and He'll do the same for you. Meet Him at the place of surrender, Meet Him at the Well!